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Social Battery

When you were a chWhen you were a child, you could spend time with people for hours, maybe even days. You loved hanging out with your friends and playing outside for hours. There were nights when you needed to talk to someone or you would go crazy. Loneliness now, however, is a part of the ordinary. As children, our friends dictate the flow of our lives — we play outside, go to as many birthday parties as possible, and as many playdates too. The more we went out, the more energy we seemed to gain. I used to think my parents were crazy for getting tired from being at parties and talking to other parents. The more the merrier, right? At Exeter, there are nights when there is nothing more I want than to watch a movie alone. On those nights, hanging out with friends drains me rather than the other way around. When I return home, there is nothing more I want to do than rot in bed and sleep all day. Part of this has to do with how stretched out we are at Exeter students. We wake up, go to classes, have athletics, then clubs from the time we leave our dorm to check-in. For many students, school extends until the later hours of the night as we grind ourselves under the load of homework our teachers subject us to. The only “me-time” that we are able to indulge in is sleep, and for most students, this factor is severely lacking. It’s undeniable that hanging out with other people drains you in some way. Whether it be talking, shouting, or singing, I always find myself tired after a long night out. It is undoubtedly fun, but when we are overworked and stretched, sometimes the last thing you want to do is go out to Grill and talk with your friends. The concept of a social battery exists because, at some point, you are done with having to listen to everyone laugh and talk. While it may be different for everyone, everyone will have a certain point when they just wish they could be alone. That is not to say that you enjoy being alone. Nights spent alone in your room may be depressing at times but they are entirely different things. In a way, friendships are transactional. Our friends serve us as a way to have fun, a way to share, and a way to have a support system. But in spending time with them, you gradually give up more and more of your social battery, and the only way to replenish it is through time for ourselves alone, which most of us lack. Exeter constantly pushes us and pulls us in different directions; towards classes, towards athletics, towards clubs, towards socials. We are asked to spread ourselves thin, and anything spread too thin is easier to tear. No matter how much we give, the external world fails to give anything truly replenishing back. But we live in a culture, especially at Exeter, that admires this. We wear our schedules like badges of honor, boasting about how many things we’re juggling, how many people we are connected to, and how we’re always on the go. The busier we are, the more successful or accomplished we feel. Just wait until you burn out. We don’t know how to live anymore without a gadget in our faces. We become so focused on the next thing, the next event, the next deadline, that we stop taking the time to sit still, to reflect. To be present in the moment. And we risk losing the essence of what makes life beautiful. We seize every opportunity we get, but we fail to seize the day. The impact of this constant busyness extends far beyond our own sense of well-being. As we stretch ourselves thin, we have less to give to our family, our friends, and our peers. When we say yes to everything, we dilute the quality of our time and energy. We leave ourselves unable to make connections. Instead, we wear different masks, hiding the real us behind the roles we play. How many masks do you have? How many people in your life truly know you? Does anyone know the real you, not just the version of yourself you present? True connections form from being present, from showing up without distractions, and from investing time and attention into the people who matter most. So, in the end, do you know who you are? Slow down. Find what truly matters and you’ll see how much you’re missing the whispers, the gestures, the small moments, and the subtle expressions that are drowned out in the flood of our daily lives. Appreciating the world isn’t a luxury, but a necessity. It’s about reclaiming the moments that matter, nurturing the relationships that bring us joy, and most importantly investing in ourselves so we can give our best to the people who matter most. Take care of your social battery. We want to be seen for who we really are, not just in our titles, but in our hearts. But this requires us to create the space for others to see us, and for us to see them. The most meaningful relationships are built on presence, vulnerability, and the time spent together, from the depth of our interactions, not from the quantity of them. Because in the end, we all want to be known by the ones we love.

Verdant Visions

On Friday, Jan. 31, students were treated to a night of style, music, and thrill at the inaugural Verdant Visions event. Hosted in the Society of 23’s Conservatory in the Lamont Gallery, the event brought students together for a memorable night centered around three key elements: music, fashion, and fun. Student DJs set the vibe as guests were invited to indulge in refreshing beverages and snacks that transformed a usually dull Friday night into one special. With a “Dress to Impress” dress code, students were encouraged to showcase their most stylish and unique outfits on campus. No doubt, this was a night to remember for all those involved. This week, The Exonian spoke to organizers and attendees of the event to uncover the details behind its motive, preparation, and outcome. “The idea behind the event was to give students something to do on notoriously boring Friday nights,” upper and student organizer Liv Lang explained. “It gave us a chance to look at some art, detach from our phones, and listen to music in the presence of each other.” Prep Ben Lewis shared his experience with the new event, “It was really good to build community with other people because we haven’t really had these types of events so far in the winter [...] Some of us got hype and mostly had a good time, but I wasn’t there for long.” “People were all dressed up and it felt something like a fall formal,” Lewis continued. “I just think it’s just nice to have these events.” Although there are no concrete plans for similar future events, organizers liked how Verdant Visions went this year and are optimistic for the future. The mixed responses from attendees serve as great feedback for the organizers to make the event even bigger and better. Lang concluded, “I had lots of fun and my friends did too, so I’m hoping it becomes an annual event that we can continue to host.”

2025-2026 StuCo Elections Conclude

This past week, the Academy’s Student Council held its annual turnover elections for the Executive Board of the 2025-2026 term. With a competitive race for key positions, students made their voices heard, casting down their votes for their newest representatives to lead the student body. Lowers Ari Benenson and Jade Yoo were elected Co-Secretaries, upper Andrew Gould secured the position of Vice President, and after a heated presidential run-off and debate, upper Lauren Lee, former co-secretary, was elected to serve as Student Council President. The new Executive Board will take office in the second week of the spring term. The elections saw impressive student participation, with 79% voter turnout for the presidential election and 69% for the other positions and the presidential primary. After getting elected, Yoo reflected on a passion for StuCo many of the candidates feel, “I love working with the student body. I’ve been holding different positions since 4th grade, but no matter what role it was, [Student Council has] brought me a lot of joy. That joy pushes me to work for StuCo every year, and the passion has never stopped.” Earlier in the week, on Tuesday night, Feb. 4, all the candidates took the Assembly stage to deliver brief campaign speeches. The general election then opened from 8 to 6 p.m. on Wednesday, Feb. 5. But before candidates were allowed to participate in the public appearance, the Elections Committee and StuCo needed to verify the candidates with the signatures they gathered from the student body. Upper Alex Trotman, Co-chair of the Student Council’s Elections Committee, commented on the process the Elections Committee undergoes to ensure the elections run smoothly and fairly for all candidates. “To ensure fairness in our elections, Elections Committee practices confidentiality in all aspects,” he said. “When we count signatures, we don’t release information before the student body is aware. If we were to, some candidates would have unfair advantages.” Verification is essential. Lower Kobi Ajene, a member of the Elections Committee, added, “We went through the essential process of verifying the signatures, and tried to make it as unbiased as possible. If we had any invalid names, we crossed it out. This is why we encouraged the candidates to get more signatures than the required amount. We try to make it fair by putting the same barriers on every candidate.” “Additionally, we do not condone any harmful comments between candidates during the election process. If candidates feel attacked emotionally, their campaigning experience will be hampered,” Trotman stated. Ajene continued to explain the preparations which started around Thanksgiving. He stated, “People were starting to announce whether they were running or not and I think that’s when elections began to be on everyone’s mind,” Ajene remarked, “But the time leading up to elections is still important because the process [the Elections Committee undergoes] shows it’s fair and democratic. The way StuCo is run is for every single policy or action that happens in StuCo, we have to vote on it.” Since upper Ethan Benenson, the other co-chair of the Elections Committee, entered the elections as a presidential candidate, the committee encountered some difficulties. “Since he was running, he temporarily had to step down from his position. It was hard to be the only co-chair organizing this election, but the advisors, Dean Marshall and Ms. Rankin, and president Cam Khater were extremely helpful [in the process],” Trotman shared. “I was on stage [in the general elections] since Ethan was running for president. He couldn’t directly participate in the ongoing elections while he was running. So I volunteered to help out,” Ajene noted. “I was listening to all the people’s speeches, and just being on stage that day, seeing how so many people came excited to hear what the candidates had to say, was a pretty exciting moment.” When the executive candidates were allowed to speak on Tuesday, the audience was able to evaluate candidates and vote for co-secretaries, vice president, and three presidential nominees. For preps, the Tuesday night speeches were especially insightful. Prep Rick Osei-Addae commented after the event, “It was super hype and I hate to say, but it was evident who was prepared and wanted the role and who wasn’t. But even then, everybody who got up there deserved their place—it was a great opportunity to hear them out.” Prep Ryan Ramos spoke of her first experience with Student Council speeches. “It was super fun and a lot more lively than I expected it to be. It made me more excited to see how the election plays out,” she said. Prep Gavyn Jones elaborated, “The speeches were great and enticing. Everyone had good points and reasoning behind why we should elect them. The speeches definitely positively impacted my voting, especially as a prep, because I don’t know a lot of lowers and uppers.” Lower Michelle Kio-Michael added, “Some of the candidates were very lively. You could tell who had a lot of public support and who didn’t. Something was said about going back to 1781, which raised a lot of eyebrows, but overall, it was great.” Upper Asha Masoudi added, “Lauren Lee stood out to me because she was very eloquent and sassy, which I love.” After the presidential primaries, three candidates entered the presidential run-offs. Uppers Kyle Kennedy’s, Ethan Benenson, and Lauren Lee participated in the official presidential debate on Friday, Feb. 7 during assembly. Ajene believed that the presidential debate was extremely significant for the election as it allowed the student body to make more informed decisions. “The debate turnout was way bigger than public appearance, and I think this helped those candidates who made it to the debate. It’s important to give a fair chance to the candidates to present themselves and their policies at a required appointment for all the students,” commented Ajene. Trotman added, “I think the presidential debate is the most important part of the election process. In the last two years, there’s been a correlation between presidential victory and good debate performance. It’s also a very stressful environment being on stage, so it’s a good way to see how your president acts under pressure.” Lower Minnie Kim provided her perspective as a viewer of the debate, “I think it was one of the best assemblies that we’ve ever had. It was fun to see how different candidates had plans about reforming and improving the school.” Voting for the run-off began at the start of the school day on Friday and closed at 7:30 p.m. The results were released to the student body later that night. Turnovers will happen at the beginning of the spring term and the student body anticipates the changes that the new board will bring on campus in the next three terms. Yoo concluded by emphasizing the importance of StuCo in the Exeter community. “Student Council plays a crucial role in deciding the quality of student life, and will impact the memories we make during our Exeter experience,” she said. “To make it successful, I believe transparency, accessibility, inclusivity, and proactive communication are key. I am honored and excited to work with Exec to create an environment where every student feels empowered and connected. Go Big Red!”

Club Activity Resurges to Pre- COVID Levels

This year marks the five year anniversary since Exeter students were forced to migrate into an online learning program, learning Harkness through online classes in their dorm or several thousand miles from New Hampshire. The discipline of collaboration, engagement, and enlightenment evaporated as Exonians locked their doors and weathered the invisible hurricane of the pandemic sweeping across the world. Thus, the participation in both the school curriculum and extracurriculars plummeted. But now, in the 2024-25 school year, Exonians seem to have fully transitioned back to the Harkness table and recovered from the plight of the virus. The paths and dining halls are bubbling with excitement, and the halls of the Academy echoes with the same cheer. The same resurgence in activity on campus soon extended into Exeter’s student led clubs. With more than 180 clubs and more than 1000 students, Club Night on Sept. xsx was an extravaganza. Clubs ranged from competitive quiz bowls, to intense runs and relaxing tea-times, highlighting the diverse Exeter Experience. In many of these clubs, coheads have reported an increase in participation. Upper Abi Sagna, cohead of Academy Belly Dancing Society noted, “I think we had a lot of new kids come to our tryouts this year, which is surprising so we’re really excited for this new year. We weren’t expecting that.”

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